The other day I heard someone say that your notes are basically uncashed checks because there is so much value in them. I LOVE taking notes. I've even had people comment on how extensive my note taking is. I don't want to miss a single word! I try to absorb it al! Butttt a lot of times I'll take notes only to never look at them again. And so I end up absorbing maybe 1% or less. Well guess what?! Now is the perfect time to look back at all those gems! So that's exactly what I did.
On 1/3/2020 I must have been feeling inspired from the new year because I wrote "Enjoy the process. Don't worry about where you're going. With joy, discipline, hard work, and consistency you will succeed. 90% of life is the process so don't waste it." PREACH!! Thank you past self for the wisdom and reminder! Let's break it down...
"Enjoy the process. Don't worry about where you're going." Dude I can't tell you how many times I've heard this. But I have basically always hated the process. It's the hard part. It's the work part. The fun part is the results - everyone knows that! It's like when I used to play softball or dance. You practice and train for weeks but the games or performances are where the glory is! But you can't have the glory without the hard work. And if the hard work feels daunting then it's going to be harder to stay consistent and find success. Not to mention that you'll be miserable. And if that's the case then what's the point?! Life is not meant to be miserable. Especially not when it comes to things in your control. So if you are finding yourself in misery during the process then maybe just maybe you're not quite on the right path. Or maybe you just need to shift your perspective and focus on gratitude and all the growth that comes with the process. No matter what you do in life, the process will always be more important than the result. No matter what you pursue it's going to be hard so make sure you love it so it's at least fun and you're staying inspired. Obviously there will be ups and downs during the process but you have to love it enough to keep moving forward despite the downs. If you focus on the process rather than the result you will eventually get to the result OR a better result than you had planned.
"With joy, discipline, hard work, and consistency you will succeed." The two most important words, in my opinion, are JOY and CONSISTENCY. Like I mentioned before, if you're not happy doing what you're doing then maybe you need to reevaluate. I spent years putting my main focus into the wrong thing and I never fully fulfilled. I evaluated and I shifted my main focus to personal development and helping other people and now I feel great and inspired! I feel like I'm finally stepping into my calling. It took me 30 years but I'm here! I still focus on that first thing but it's not my main focus anymore. So maybe you need to reevaluate your main focus. And then there's consistency. Consistency is so important. You can do all the right things for a month but if you stop after a month it's not going to get you where you want to go. It might be a slow process but overtime you will start to realize the huge impact of being consistent. And if you're joyful about what you're doing then you're much more likely to be consistent. Know where you want to go, find joy, and take small steps every single day toward that vision.
"90% of life is the process so don't waste it." The results are just 10% of your life. If you are only focused on the results you are missing the majority of your life and there is so much good that happens in the 90%. Say you live to be 100 years old but you only enjoy 10 years of your life. Can you imagine? You would never actively choose to only enjoy 10 years out of 100 so why are you so focused on the result. Don't diminish the importance of the process. That's where the transformation comes. That's where real life happens. Enjoy this time right now. We are in the 90% right now. If you can't enjoy this time what makes you think you're going to be able to enjoy the result when you get there? There is no guarantee that the results will even make you happy! You may get to your goal and realize that it's not what you want after all. So find happiness in the now. In this moment. In the 90%.
Life is all about the process. Life is all about the journey. Don't miss that. What can you do right now, today, regardless of all the things working against you to lean into the process. To enjoy the process. To shift your focus on this moment and being the best, happiest version of yourself right now.
Have you ever been so jealous of a friend or co worker for receiving a job or accolade you wanted? Yeah, me either. Not. at. All. Just kidding. I have. Time and time again. Great things would happen to my friends but they were great things that I wanted and while I was outwardly so excited for my friends, on the inside I was so bummed. I wanted those things for me and I wanted them for me first. I hate saying any of this because it’s not being a very good friend but it was my truth. I used to struggle with a scarcity mindset.
Somewhere along the way I developed the mindset that there are only an infinite amount of success and opportunities out there and so that meant if someone else got a win there were less wins for me. But that’s not true! It not only keeps you in a negative headspace but it doesn’t encourage you to reach and stretch for your goals. I have seen so many people create a position at their company that never existed before because they were so clear on what they wanted. We can create anything! But it wont happen if you believe there is only so much to go around. There is enough for everyone.
I know it can be easy to be jealous of others but their journey is not yours. Everything is working out for you the way it’s supposed to. I know you’ve gone through hard things and maybe you’re currently going through hard things but you are going to be stronger for overcoming that pain. You have to go through the fire to be molded into something new. If you are currently going through something hard check out this song. It’s so, so good. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUPgzd3nwMo
You have to deal with whatever you’re going through. It’s okay to fall apart. God has a better journey for you than you know!
Having a scarcity mindset ultimately comes down to a lack of faith. And when there’s a lack of faith, fear is always present. On the other hand, having an abundance mindset means that you believe there is enough to go around for everyone. A person with an abundance mindset focuses on the belief that there are endless possibilities in life. They look for the positive or at least the lesson or meaning behind any setback or negative experience. They are optimistic and focus on the future therefore creating and attracting positive experiences and opportunities.
If you can relate to any of what I’m saying I want to give you some tools that have helped me make the shift from a living with a fearful or scarcity mindset to a mindset of abundance.
I don’t know what it is but I used to loveeee focusing on the negative and on things that don’t matter. Even though I’m pretty optimistic now I don’t think that was my natural state. I used to loveeee to complain. About so. Many. things. I also used to view myself as what I like to call the "world police." What I mean by that is that I knew what was right and just in the world and it was my job and personal responsibility to dwell on the things others were doing wrong. I wouldn’t tell them what they were doing wrong, of course, because after all sometimes they were total strangers but my job as world police was to know what they were doing wrong (based on what I deemed to be right) and then spend the next 30 minutes to an hour thinking about how my way would have been better. And by thinking about it I was making the world a better place...in my mind. I took this imaginary job very seriously and hopefully you can see just how ridiculous and time wasting this was.
Thankfully I realized two things that have totally transformed my life and made me happier and more productive so I want to share them with you. The first thing is kind of a hard realization and it may be something that you don’t want to hear. Especially right now... But I’m going to have the courage to say the uncomfortable thing because I think it’s important.
The first thing I learned is that your life is a reflection of you and your choices. If you are complaining about your life then that’s a pretty good indicator that you may be doing something wrong. But the good news is you contain the power to change that thing. So if you find yourself complaining about money and focusing on how life isn’t fair and how you don’t have enough money for the things you desire, what if you focused on what you could do differently to make more money. Can you learn a new skill? Can you help more people? These are all things that are in your control. If you find yourself complaining about a coworker or roommate a lot, spend some time thinking about why these things bother you so much. Maybe you’re mentally exhausted and so you’re just more agitated in general - I’ve been there. Meditation and rest are both great options for mental exhaustion. Maybe you’re jealous of that person in some way because they seemingly have things easier or whatever reason in which case, thinking about what you’re grateful for is a great solution. Maybe it’s just a conversation that you need to have with them about how what they are doing is bothering you. Again, all of these things are in your control. They take honest conversations with yourself and you definitely have to let go of your ego to understand the problem may not be everyone else but it may be you. They also take action. Your mindset is not just automatically going to shift from a negative one to a positive one. It’s an everyday, ongoing thing but by having the awareness of it you’ll be able to check yourself before you go down that dark path of negativity and blame.
The second thing I’ve learned is that we only have so much mental energy to use every single day. Think of it like a gas tank. You only have so much gas in your tank and it doesn’t matter which direction you go, either way you’re burning gas. So if you are using it focusing on negative things or how you’re not where you want to be, you are wasting that energy and preventing yourself from getting closer to your goals. Your focus and your energy are so precious. They will get you where you want to go but you get what you focus on so what are you focusing on?
Are you focusing on where you want to go and what you can do to be a better version of yourself or are you focusing on how you are a victim to your circumstance and how others are upsetting you? You are a powerful person. Don’t give up that power by focusing on the wrong things. Take inventory. Are there changes that you can make to live a happier and more focused life? Only you have the answers within you so don’t take that for granted. You got this!
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