There are some people out there that want to talk about or dwell on their problems and not do anything about them.
I've never understood the point in this. Yes, it feels good to connect with another person about your problems but if you focus more on the problem than the solution you could fall into a victim mentality.
The reality is, you are the victor not the victim of your life. If there is a problem in your life it is an opportunity to grow, learn, or change something.
Being solution focused keeps you moving forward toward your goal rather than feeling stuck.
3 Steps to Turn Your Problems into Solutions:
1.) What is your problem?
Ex. I don't have enough time in the day to do the things I want because I have kids and work a 9-5 job.
2.) How can you grow/learn/change?
Ex. What does your ideal day look like? What's missing? What's most important? You have to know specifically what you want before you will be motivated to make a change.
3.) Make small changes. You might not have time to have an hour for yourself but can you find 20 minutes? How long are you spending mindless on social media? Can you be more intentional and use that time for yourself? Those 20 minutes may not seem like a lot but, if you commit to 20 minutes everyday, they will lead to huge growth and progress.
It's all about moving forward from where you are. Be real with yourself and know your starting point and then focus on what you want and take small steps toward that thing. Big change comes from continuous small steps.
Which type of person are you committed to being?
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