This morning I went to breakfast with a friend at a new restaurant. The menu was huge and had a lot of different options. Normally, I am terrible at deciding what to eat (I am notorious for looking up the menu before I go anywhere new) but I have started to realize that how you do one thing is how you do everything and my indecisiveness with my food options is bleeding into my indecisiveness with the rest of my life. I don't know about you, but I want to be the driver of my own life, so I have chosen to be more proactive when it comes to decision making.
It's funny how easily you can see things when you're on the outside of them. My friend narrowed it down to three options and then asked the server which one she would suggest. The options were: huevos rancheros, eggs benedict, and avocado toast. Mind you, she had JUST told me that she loves Mexican style food for breakfast and yet she still found herself in a pickle deciding.
The server told my friend she would recommend the avocado toast and I watched my friend, in disappointment, look at the menu where the huevos rancheros was listed as if she were saying goodbye to an old lover...so I called her out on it. Her heart very clearly wanted huevos rancheros and yet, she was asking the server to make the decision for her. But the problem is the server doesn't know what she likes. Only you know what you want. And this is true in most things in life if you will just commit to making a decision and really going for it.
Sure enough, she got the huevos rancheros, and it was amazing.
By the way, I've done this several times myself where I thought I wanted two things but then when the waiter said one option I was disappointed. And 100% of the time when I go with the waiter's recommendation after feeling that initial disappointment I regret it.
How can you apply this to life? Only you know what you really want and what is best for you. You may ask someone who has great intentions but at the end of the day you have to listen to your intuition and make the best decision for yourself.
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