Do you have a goal on your heart that you know you are capable of but you're not sure how to get there? Maybe you want to write a book, maybe you want to be a better mom, or maybe you want to be more present. Sometimes our goals can seem so scary, overwhelming, or foreign that we don't know how to change and then we get down on ourselves and call ourselves lazy or unmotivated.
I used to call myself lazy and unmotivated but the reality was that I was afraid. I was working hard but I was working hard on things I didn’t care about to avoid doing the scary thing that was on my heart. And then I’d get down on myself and that only made things worse.
I don’t believe there is any such thing as lazy or unmotivated. I believe we all want to be better versions of ourselves. Sometimes we don't allow ourselves to dream or think about what we want because we're so busy living a life we hate. I believe we avoid things we are fearful of - and it can be scary to think of life differently. Even if you're unhappy at least you're safe, right.
So instead of changing or doing something different we call ourselves lazy, unmotivated, stupid, bad, unworthy, etc, etc...But it's not true. You are not any of those things. You may be afraid but you aren't unworthy, you aren't lazy. Not only are these things untrue, they are hurtful to your self confidence and keep you further from what it is you know you want in your heart.
If you have a dream on your heart but you find yourself unmotivated or not moving forward, here are 4 tips to break that vicious cycle...
1.) Call it what it is - fear. Go deep and ask yourself what you are afraid of. Is it fear of what other people think? Fear of not being good enough? Name it what it is so it doesn't have power over you.
2.) Take action! Take one small step that will get you out of your comfort zone and toward your goal. The first step is always the hardest but you can do it! If you don’t know what to do, ask! You’re not alone!
3.) Small wins build confidence. Whatever you started in step 2, make sure you follow through and finish it because small wins add up and build self confidence and self worth. The hardest part is starting and the second hardest part is finishing. It doesn’t have to be perfect! Let yourself be bad because that is how you learn and grow.
4.) Enjoy the journey. As you pursue your goal there will always be ups and downs. Embrace all of it. Be grateful for the highs but also be grateful for the lows because if you pay attention, you will learn so much more from the lows.
I have spent a lot of my life playing it safe and then calling myself mean names for not going after my goals. It's such a vicious cycle. And more importantly, it only got me further away from my goal. You have the power to stop the cycle for yourself. You have the power to be the driver of your life. I believe in you and I know you can do amazing things!
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